Most people assume that addiction always involves alcohol or drugs; the reality is that addiction is an illness of the individual’s brain and that it is possible for a sufferer to become addicted to almost anything…or anyone. Addiction to sex and love is a common manifestation of the illness; just because it doesn’t involve a substance doesn’t mean it is any less harmful or destructive to the individual sufferer, or to their family and loved ones. Classified as a process addiction, sex and love addiction is often overlooked and the correct treatment can be hard to find. Primrose Lodge offer a comprehensive treatment programme for sex and love addiction. If you or a loved one are suffering, you may want to read on…
Sex addiction can manifest in varying forms, but basically is a term used to describe any out of control sexual activity. Those affected often feel deep shame and guilt around their addiction. Fear of being mocked or judged often delays them in seeking help. As with any addiction, they simply cannot get enough of the activity they are addicted to and often resort to more risky and extreme behaviours in order to try and satisfy themselves.
Sex addiction is a real disorder and often carries serious consequences to the individual and to their loved ones. The various manifestations of sex addiction are:
While these activities are mostly harmless when done in moderation, safely and whilst not in a committed monogamous relationship, those with a sex addiction will become obsessed to the point where their sexual activity affects their everyday life. Sex addiction can have a devastating impact on all aspects of the person’s life, including their relationships, career and finances.
In particular, spouses and partners find sex addiction the most difficult to cope with, for them it brings up feelings of betrayal, jealousy and mistrust. It can be extremely painful being close to someone with a sex addiction. Usually the sufferer will keep the addiction a secret for as long as they possibly can. They understand the harm and pain it will cause for a partner to find out, yet they are still unable to stop themselves from doing it.
Sex addiction is characterised by an out of control sexual activity that impacts on other areas of the individual’s life; causing them great emotional pain, heartache and loss. Despite wanting to stop and having suffered negative consequences, they are compelled to continue in their destructive and sometimes deviant behaviours. The addiction centres on the euphoric effects that the brain produces whilst planning and engaging in the activity. The addict will go to any lengths to get the euphoric high, often disregarding their own well-being and the well being of others in the process.
Those that suffer from love addiction have an overwhelming need to feel loved, often to their own detriment and to the detriment of those that love and care for them. They will go to extraordinary lengths to search out love or please their partners, even if it means compromising their own needs and wellbeing. Those that are affected may become obsessed with the idea of being in love, they may have numerous relationships or stay in destructive relationships as they have difficulty being on their own. Over time, love addiction causes serious consequences to the individual; they are unable to find a balance or maintain a healthy relationship for any reasonable period of time.
Love addiction is an attachment disorder in which the sufferer becomes dependent on the attention of a romantic partner. Much like any other addiction, the crux of the problem centres in the individual’s mind. Those affected often suffer from cripplingly low self-esteem and believe that they are worthless if they are not in a relationship. They may tolerate harmful behaviour from their partner, as they believe that is all they deserve and it is preferable to being on their own. Many that suffer from love addiction, do not even realise it is an illness and that there is treatment and help available. We offer a highly effective treatment programme for those suffering, that treats the root causes of the addiction within the individual that frees them to form healthy relationships; firstly with themselves and then with others in the future.
It can be difficult to admit that you or a loved one are suffering from a sex or love addiction and need help. Sex and love addiction is a growing problem and causes the sufferer to feel worthless, depressed and anxious. Let’s looks at the characteristics, that may help you to decide if you or a loved one are suffering from an addiction to sex or love that requires professional treatment in order to overcome:
Engaging with multiple sexual partners
Characteristics of a love addict:
As with all addictions, sex and love addictions can affect anyone. Nevertheless, some people are more predisposed to developing an addiction than others. Certain contributing factors can mean a person is more at risk of developing an addiction. Primrose Lodge treat the root causes of an individual’s addiction through medical and therapeutic means in order to achieve a full and permanent recovery.
The following factors can contribute to an individual being at higher risk of developing a sex or love addiction:
Primrose Lodge offer a non-judgemental and caring environment that promotes recovery and nurtures the individual back to health. We understand the causes of love and sex addiction can be complex and offer a highly effective treatment programme to those that suffer from it. Our elite team of qualified Doctors, Counsellors and Therapists are proficient in treating all forms of love and sex addiction and compulsive, destructive behaviours.
We use a variety of proven addiction therapies, including Cognitive Behavioural Therapy and Dialectical Behavioural Therapy, to assist in changing the mind-set of the individual and thus freeing them from their obsessive thinking and behaviours. Sex and love addiction is a serious condition that requires intensive therapeutic treatment in order to overcome. We suggest a minimum of 4 to 8 weeks inpatient treatment, in order that the individual may gain the full benefits of our residential treatment programme. We also support the family with our unique Family Recovery Programme. For more information on how we can help you as an individual, please call and speak to a member of our team.